My son is 14 and a bit awkward, skinny and a loner and I’d l like him to toughen up a bit so he doesn’t get picked on. So I take him to boxing lessons twice a week. Every week I have to put up with his tantrums as he cries and begs not to go. The gym is in a rough part of town and all the other kids there laugh at him when I drag him in and it’s embarrassing for me.
The kids there have told me he enjoys the classes and to keep bringing him back, but every time the issue comes up with my son he acts like it’s hell there. How can I get him to go without having to endure stress every time?
i don’t think you can but you can tell him more about boxing and how if you live in the city how it can keep him safe
i don’t think you can but you can tell him more about boxing and how if you live in the city how it can keep him safe
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Show him videos of legendary boxers like Ali and what not and try to get him inspired. That’s what inspired me to lace up the gloves.
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Get him a heavy bag to practice on in your home. As his skills develope so will his desire to go to the gym.
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look if you want im to not get piked on dont take im because if all the kids laugh at im it will make im more vulnerball also if u are telling everyone whom cums on to this website he will feel upset so this will make it even worse if u realy wont him to be respected you should respct him by not tellmg everyoneabout his tantrums hope this help if not just talk to him about it
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haha im sorry but this seems like it could end up one of those ‘yahoo answers fail’ things
maybe he just doesnt want to be foreced by you and will go on his own will if you let him decide
or maybe those kids tell you to bring him back because they lie about him enjoying it and really just want him back because they beat him up and enjoy that
i dont know man
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There’s a disconnect between what other kds are saying and how your son is reacting. Have you spoken with the instructor? It is possible that your son is being picked on and the "kids" don’t want to own up to it. I find t hard to believe that the other kids would laugh at him and then turn around and be nice. At 14, your son’s personality, likes and dislikes are pretty much formed. Don’t try to make him into something he is not. Help him accept who he is. The best way to do that is for you to accept him and give him the support, love and space to become his own person — not who you want him to be. If that means the end of boxing lessons, so be it.
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show him a couple clips of mike tyson or ali or joe loius or george foreman i am sure he will get some inspiration out of that but you should not even be forcing him to do something if he doesnt want to
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best answer please
Get him right out of there. You’re ruining it already for him. boxing, is in your blood, so to speak. You have to be the one that wants to go. Like many young men and now women, the first time he’s punched in the nose by some bully, he’ll decide, he doesn’t like it and will take it upon himself to find out how to take care of himself. Cassius Clay’s father didn’t drag him to Police officer Martin’s gym after His bike was stolen, it was Cassius who said, enough is enough. Chill out dad.
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Try to wait in’till he really has enough and then maybe he’ll wake up and finally steps up but if that doesn’t work get him outta there.
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sounds tough bro…
unfortunately, we cant force our kids to like stuff they dont enjoy
there is probably another activity he would much rather do than box, other than playing video games, watching tv, and being on facebook..
we cant live our kids lives bro…. he might not be a fighter..
dont force him to be all macho cause some kids end up turning gay!!! (LOL sorry)
find similarities in the stuff he DOES enjoy with boxing. maybe then he will get more interested..
but i would keep bringing him unless he comes up with a reasonable excuse to why he doesnt want to go.. if there isnt a valid reason, i would assume he was just being lazy. he’ll thank you one day when he’s out and about in the world and is forced to defend himself. keep taking him and tell him to stop complaining. tell him this is your life now son, get used to it!!
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